Dismissive avoidant vs. fearful avoidant summary


Dismissive:

  • Intimacy isn't a high priority in life

  • Disconnected from emotions and dismiss their value in self and others

  • When they run or shut down they are often emotionally numb or angry

  • Rarely shows anxiety about state of relationships no matter who they partner with

  • Stable but emotionally distant

Fearful:

  • Longing for intimacy but distrust it

  • Often connected deeply to own emotions and value them in others

  • May run or shut down whilst feeling a lot inside (overwhelm, confusion, guilt, fear)

  • Become anxious when in a relationship with a more avoidant partner

  • Unstable, often emotionally expressive, sometimes distant

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