You notice you keep attracting the same type of partner and the same struggles again and again and you've realised the common factor is you.
You recognise that a fear of emotional intimacy has been holding you back from getting the love you truly want.
You realise the relationships you saw growing up were not healthy.
You want to break the cycle and learn a new way.
You no longer want to make others responsible for your happiness.
You are realising the healing power of taking responsibility for your own wellbeing rather than looking for a saviour...
You want to stop self sabotaging and allow yourself to be seen, to be vulnerable and to receive.
You want to avoid hurting loved ones and yourself going forward.
You want to experience deep, unconditional, soul love.
You want to reclaim the way you show up with family without guilt. You are no longer responsible for their behaviour and trauma.
You want to finally release your addiction to the highs and lows of 'earning' the love of unavailable partners or friends.
You are ready to forgive yourself and others for the hurt that has been caused and create a new reality free from shame and blame, instead based on understanding - and you know that this is possible to do whilst also having healthy boundaries and creating distance/no contact when that's called for.