Your relationships are here to awaken you.
Our global culture has carried so much heaviness and spiritual disconnection that all of us are called in one way or another to unlearn the fear based ways we have been taught to relate by our parents and society and discover something totally new. If you have been struggling with codependency, avoidance or any other pain-driven pattern related to human connection, it’s so understandable. You may have never seen examples of how loving, soul centred relationships can be... So many people have told me they had never seen a highly conscious couple before! How were we supposed to know how we can show up for ourselves or in our relationships from a spiritually evolved space or how to know how to respond to others in their unconscious or conscious expressions? (Sometimes meeting a highly conscious person can feel more scary and triggering if we are used to experiencing unconscious relationships!)
We are in the process collectively of understanding the ability of every relationship with others to hold up a mirror to our growth, to reflect back to us our healed and unhealed aspects - to support our joy or remind us of our unexamined pain. Many of the models we have been given of the spiritual path represent the archetype of the monk on the mountain, of self exploration done in silence and solitude. But what about relationship as a path to spiritual awakening? How can we be in the world and sharing space and intimacy with others without operating from ego? How can our connections with loved ones, community and the wider world teach us and deepen our practice of love and cultivating inner peace?
Our healing is in some ways, deeply individual: examining the specific memories, formative relationships, limiting beliefs, stored emotions and imprints that have disconnected us from our intuitive knowing and inner source of love. You are remembering how to love, and that you are love.
At certain phases in your journey your healing happens in a sacred cocoon and is about reclaiming your power - withdrawing the focus from the world and going within:
Should and need to's are banished. You validate yourself, all the parts of you that you have rejected or ignored. You notice the ways you have been blocking your own vision and you practice compassion for yourself as you learn that there are other ways of doing things - learning a different way of being or doing going forward. You realise how deep the suffering of others has gone and understand why caregivers, partners, and other emotionally significant people were not able to treat your inner child with the love you always deserved - and so you can no longer take that person’s actions past or present, personally for as long. You forgive yourself, and inwardly forgive others to release the past and set yourself free. You step away from people and things that are unsupportive of your wellbeing, and allow yourself to reclaim and get to know your soul’s voice once more. You build up your inner strength, ready to DO things differently.
After a cocoon phase, you move into your butterfly phase, extending yourself outward to others in the world. This time you relate to them differently - there is less judgement, criticism, anger, impulsiveness, wearing a mask, people pleasing, attachment or avoidance etc... and more empathy, authenticity, and openness. (If fear based expressions happen, you catch yourself quickly and repair. If another person’s fear based energies trigger you, you catch yourself more quickly, self soothe and set boundaries if needed). As you expand, you become so full of love that nothing else makes sense other than to extend it outward. Your more conscious relating will show up in so many ways and towards all kinds of people, from your beloved to a stranger on the street. (It’s okay to not be perfect, we are continually learning!) Loved ones will rise up with you, or their unconscious habits will bother you less and be easier to accept where they are, or some loved ones will fall away (and you become more at peace with that - you value your own company and new soul connections arrive).
Since awakening, you cycle through cocoon and butterfly as needed, moving through deeper layers of self examination and expansion.
The magic of shifting your reality has begun.
And as we heal, we support the shift in human consciousness to service.
As more and more healing (awakening) occurs, we will see humanity mainly spending energy on activities that are beneficial (or neutral) for other living beings.
Yes, this is possible and indeed already in motion.
As each generation releases certain fear based templates that were once societal norms, the generations presently on Earth are releasing our own fear based templates at a rapid rate. (Sometimes this has looked like momentary chaos, and has involved tragic loss of life - but this becomes less and less the case as our collective consciousness raises).
Your healing is not just something you do in isolation that affects only you - there are rippling effects upon the world around you.
Critical mass has been reached - planetary accession is in progress.